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Devaluation: When We Push Away What We Most Need
Love often presents itself gently—through connection, care, and availability. But instead of responding to it, some people instinctively devalue it. What was once good is suddenly minimized, criticized, or dismissed as unimportant or unsafe. Devaluation is a defense mechanism in which a person reduces the value of something that feels emotionally threatening. Rather than risk vulnerability, they unconsciously turn something positive into something negative. This is not beca
Hyunjin Lee
Dec 20, 20253 min read
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