Love often presents itself gently—through connection, care, and availability. But instead of responding to it, some people instinctively devalue  it. What was once good is suddenly minimized, criticized, or dismissed as unimportant or unsafe. Devaluation is a defense mechanism  in which a person reduces the value of something that feels emotionally threatening. Rather than risk vulnerability, they unconsciously turn something positive into something negative. This is not beca

Idealization  is the act of viewing someone or something as perfect—or far more perfect than it really is. In psychological terms, idealization is a defense mechanism that helps a person cope with discomfort, insecurity, or unmet emotional needs. It is closely related to fantasy , which we discussed earlier, because both involve escaping reality and replacing it with a more comforting internal picture. While idealization may feel positive at first, it often creates patterns t

🌿 Celebrate Recovery: Step 1 The First Choice — Realize I’m Not God “I admit that I am powerless to control my tendency to do the wrong thing and that my life is unmanageable.” “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.” — Matthew 5:3 (NIV) 💡 Introduction: Facing the Truth Part of our human nature is to resist change until our pain exceeds our fear of change. We deny, minimize, or ignore our pain until it becomes unbearable—and only then do we fin

A Biblical and Evidence-Based Pathway to Healing Hurts, Hang-ups, and Habits The Human Need for Recovery The Bible clearly states that “all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). It is our nature to sin—yours and mine. None of us is exempt. Because of sin, we’ve all hurt ourselves, we’ve hurt others, and others have hurt us. That means each of us needs repentance and recovery to live the way God intended. We often hear the phrase, “time heals all wound