Substitution is the act of replacing one person or thing with another. Often, when people cannot access real, meaningful relationships, they find something else to fill the void. Addictions, for example, are common substitutes for unmet needs in the self. Drugs, food, sex, or even work may take the place of love, connection, or spiritual fulfillment. These substitutes act as defenses against our true need for connection—with other people and with God. Telling someone to simpl

Reaction formation  is a defense mechanism in which a person behaves in the exact opposite  way of what they truly feel, want, or need. It’s not usually intentional — it is an unconscious strategy the mind uses to protect itself from feelings that feel dangerous, shameful, or too vulnerable to acknowledge. What Reaction Formation Looks Like Someone who feels deeply lonely may present themselves as fiercely independent.S omeone who longs for connection may preach against “need